It Gets Better

Dan Savage and his partner Terry tell queer high schoolers:

Don't end your life. It gets better.




A good reminder for all of us. 

Two Dreams

"Please remember that the dream you have of finding a long-term romantic partner and having a baby is not just one dream. It’s two. The man dream and the baby dream are so intricately woven that you can be forgiven for thinking they’re one. It’s lovely if it is rolled up into one. It’s more than lovely. It’s convenient. It’s conventional. It’s economically advantageous. It’s hella good when it’s good.

But it isn’t what you have. So let’s see what you’ve got."

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words: dear sugar

image: i want this

Perspective

"There's something of a magic to the perspective that a post-relationship experience gives you. It profoundly changes your perspective on not just your own heart and decisions, but every single person in your life and the people who may enter it tomorrow. I mean, what's the fucking deal with hindsight, right? Could there be a more inconvenient educator?

Thing is, you just have to trust yourself, give yourself a break, and except that hindsight always wins and you'll never get it perfect and the people who are fucking up your world or undermining your foundations are in their own tailspin of it's own severity and you sit on a bench in front of something pretty, take a deep breath, and take in the fact that 'okay...so that fucking happened'.

And you're still standing, and he (or she) may not be, but you're still standing, and you have everything you went into the relationship with...it's just all shifted around and a little swollen here or there, but you know you like you and that's where you start. Or you don't like little bits of you and you start with the bits you like and you work on the ones you don't. A boy (or girl) comes along and likes lots of your bits. Wants to jump in the ring... help you on the bits you want help on.

All in all, this is life, I think. We move through lessons to the point at which a relationship (the forever one) is about learning them together in full. The lessons never stop though. We find perfection in the fact that imperfection is constant, and a way to live among it sans destruction becomes the symphony of true love."

DShan

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words: dshan
image: hey ho lets go n

Assume Love

"If he packed his bags and left right now, I'd still have snow to shovel. If I packed my bags and left right now, I'd still have snow to shovel, just somewhere else."

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words: assume love
image: away

Empty Spaces

"When the empty spaces show up - if we let them - that is exactly when our lives get quiet enough to make room for what is next."

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words: life after college
image: sergeyloie

I Identified With This One A Little Too Much

image: brooklyn mutt

Walking

I don't want to fetishize her youth, but this girl is a high school senior and a goddamn genius. This poem is an anthem.



words: zora howard


Shared by Ev`Yan.

Time to Ante Up

My friends are good.